This blog post has been authored by Denise Fitzpatrick, My Marriage Works
My client came to session last week pissed at her husband.
“He always pressures me to do things even when I say no”.He wanted to go to a restaurant for dinner and she didn’t want to go. Because of Covid.“He just keeps asking and asking and asking until I give in”.“I don’t know why he does this, it’s so disrespectful, it’s like he doesn’t ever listen to me”.In the session her goal was to solve her husband’s “disrespectful” behavior because she believed “he makes me do things I don’t want to”. This seems like a reasonable thing to want….to want your husband to not nag you when you’ve said no. So I asked her what she wanted to do about that.I want him to stop asking me when I’ve said no and just listen to me. Again, seems reasonable.But trying to get him to change is what she’s been doing for years and it hasn’t been w…