This blog post has been authored by Laura Koubenec, Reconnecting-You
Tips for intercultural couples #1
We easily assume that our loved one has similar thoughts, values, and perceptions. However, bear in mind your partner from a different culture has seen different status symbols and role models through fairy tales and movies.
He/she has grown up with different smells and spices in the kitchen, and was raised with different rules regarding respect, privacy or punctuality.
A lot of tension in intercultural couples comes down to miscommunication. So, instead of assuming you know, stay open-minded and curious.
Ask your partner directly: “what does this mean to you?”.
Examples:
What does it mean to you to get married?
What does it mean to you to involve the extended family in the decision-making process?
What does it mean to you to eat food prepared in this particular way?
So, I invite you to keep wondering and learning about your partner.
I am relationship coach for intercultural couples. As a Cultural Anthropologist, accredited coach and wife in an intercultural marriage I guide you with a lot of empathy and curiosity.