This blog post has been authored by Stand Out Online Member Adrienne Rivera, Spiritual Business Coach (Adrienne Rivera, LLC)
How is your current ability to experience emotional and physical intimacy? Do you run as far as possible from it or do you welcome it as an experience for your growth?
I was recently conducting a spiritual business coaching call & intuitive reading with a client and her fear of emotional intimacy was what was keeping her stuck. I could tell intuitively that that was the root of this before we even started talking about her business. I could recognize it because I remembered what it was like to be in that situation.
I’ll never forget being on the playground in 3rd grade and telling one of my best friends, “I don’t want to play with you today. I want to play with my other friend today.” She ran behind a tree and cried. I felt so bad. I didn’t know how to help her feel better. In that moment, I made up a story that being emotionally vulnerable wasn’t safe and I wasn’t good at holding space for others. What Stories Are You Creating Around Intimacy?
Notice how I said, “the story that I made up.” I could’ve chosen to believe that story and chosen to be traumatized from making one of my best friends cry. Instead, I chose to no longer believe that story. And I’m so glad that I didn’t.
Now, holding space for people is one of my biggest gifts. I do it every time I lead breathwork, guide clients in intuitive readings, lead 1:1 client calls, and also in my Mastermind Group Calls.
So I’d love for you to contemplate the question, what “stories” are you making up around intimacy?
Look At How You Were Raised
Were your parents divorced or so busy that you never saw them be intimate with each other? Perhaps you never viewed what it was like to see a healthy example of emotional and/or physical intimacy.
Sometimes learning intimacy and starting to feel safe with it is like learning a new language. It can take time and patience. Allow yourself to be patient as you explore how it feels to you.
How Lack of Intimacy is Affecting Your Business
Usually, when there is a deep fear of intimacy, we feel like we need to run away from being seen as well as being vulnerable.
If you are trying to see if this is you, ask yourself the following questions:
Am I staying busy doing other things to avoid FB Lives?
Do I avoid showing up on social media when I’m feeling sad or vulnerable?
Do I feel okay sharing the “real” me on social media and being vulnerable?
Your answers to these questions will let you know if there is some room to improve going deeper within yourself and your relationships. People buy from people, not robots. People also buy from people that they relate with.
Adrienne Rivera is a Spiritual Business Coach who specializes in teaching healers and coaches how to create a six figure business online. She started out her coaching journey as an online fitness + mindset coach, grew it to a 6 figure business and discovered her passion and talent for business coaching. She focuses on helping her clients find alignment with their business on a soul level. She is a breathwork facilitator, host of “The Enlightened Entrepreneur”—which is an online show that teaches spiritual entrepreneurs how to activate their shamanic gifts and step into abundance, and is a master at teaching conscious sales.