This blog post has been authored by Stand Out Online Member Cassandra Taveras, Stacked House Mama

How did we get here?
Perhaps we need to step back and ask our self how did we get here? Well through the years we slowly had many up hill battles. If your marriage is happy or falling apart it is important to taking a deeper look. Asking skin deep questions can seem intimidating at time.

The goal is always to be on the same page and the same level. If you feel lost take a peep at these questions. Ask your partner to do an exercise with you. Tap into the skin deep questions and discover something new about your partner.

The purpose
The main purpose is to get to know your partner in their current state. In order for you to get to know each other better, both of you have to be open to the questions. The more honest the marriage can be, the better chance it has at surviving. These deep questions to ask are designed to get both of you to open up. We are aiming to lay out every bit of information on the table. This process will allow both of us to analyze the current state we are in.

QUESTIONS:
1.What is one thing you love about me?
2.Can you name one thing that bothers you about me?
3.What is something I used to do, you wish I did again?
4.Which of my friends do you wish I didn’t speak to and why?
5.Who is the person you run to when I am busy?
6.What is the pain in me you wish you could fix? 7.What is one thing you remember about childhood?
8. If you had to marry me again, would you?
9. What is something you wish you did more?
10. How would you describe our sex life?
11. Do you remember who said I love you first?
12. Do you feel different about me now verses when we first met?
13. What is something you adore about me?
14. What is one thing you’ve always wanted to try?
15. If you left this earth would you want me to move on?16. If you could change something in your life right now, what would it be?
17. If you feel mad or sad, what is the best way I could help?
18. What stresses you the most in our relationship?
19. When was a time you were very disappointed with yourself?
20. What is something that can never be forgiven?
21. What do you feel is the most important aspect in a relationship?
22. When was the last time you cried and why?
23. What is the best memory you have with me?
24. What is your biggest fear in our relationship?

QUESTIONS CONTINUED
25. What is one of your biggest regrets?
26. When was a time that I disappointed you?
27. If we lost all the materialistic things we owned, would you stay by my side?
28. Would you say I am enough for you at this moment?
29. Have you ever lied to me for fear of disappointment?
30. What is more important to you, my happiness or yours?
31. Do you feel we can grow old together?
32. Do you ever wish I was the same person as when we first met?
33. Have you grown stronger in loving me through the years?
34. Is there anything about my immediate family that bothers you?
35. If you had the option to break up and start a new life, would you take it?36. If you could change one thing about our relationship, what would it be and why?
37. Is there a memory in your mind that will never fade away?
38. Have you ever felt trapped in our relationship?
39. Do you feel you can open up to me emotionally?
40. What is one thing to never joke about?
41. Where do you see this relationship in 10 years?
42. What is one thing that worries you about the world?
43. Do you feel I have ever held you back from something?
44. What would you consider the biggest problem in your life?
45. How much would you say you love me?
46.Do you believe in second chances?
47. Do two wrongs make one right?
48. Have I ever made you cry?
49. Can you name 3 things you wish to do before you die?
50. What is one important thing you learned during these questions?

To sum it all up
It may feel like an interrogation. Try to shed some light on these questions. The process is intended to draw the both of you closer. Talking about new topic can make it seem fresh and inviting. You will notice your relationship change the more you decide to have more frequent conversations. It’s probably best to open up a bit everyday and add it to your daily routine.

If you feel overwhelmed maybe just start with a couple of question. You do not need to ask all questions to start the conversation. Starting out with five or six will lead to a meaningful conversation. If you feel hurt the best thing to do it stop drowning in it. These questions will help you get that thought out on the table.

Not your average mama in Texas. I was in real estate for about 5 years. After my second baby and all the chaos associated with it, I decided to stay at home and do some side hustles for extra income. I went to a 4 year university with a Bachelor’s degree in Letters, Arts and Social Sciences and a minor in Interpersonal Communications .